If you are like most guys you may be intimidated by the thought of dating a woman with a “bad girl” side to her. This is particularly true for men with limited dating experience or those who may have only dated so called “good girls” in the past. These feelings of intimidation and overwhelm that you feel when you are around a bad girl type of gal can be a major obstacle to overcome. Especially since a true bad girl would never consider dating a pansy-like man who lacks the testicular fortitude to pursue her the way she wants you to.

Now you may be asking, “what is a guy to do?”

Well, here’s the good news: a couple of NYC dating coaches named Bobby Rio and Rob Judge have developed a system called “The Scrambler” that guys can use to get any girl they want (at least that is the premise). The idea is that by “messing with her mind” you can cause a woman, bad-girl or not, to become completely obsessed and attracted to you. It certainly would seem like it would be a lot easier not to be intimidated my a woman when she is the one pursuing a romantic relationship with you! In the video below Bobby and Rob share some of their best secrets for as they say “unlocking her legs”.

To summarize the video, it’s all about getting her “off balance” so that she is unclear as far as where she stands with you. Apparently this is very difficult thing for women to deal with psychologically, and will result in her feeling a strong need to pursue you, sort of like a kitten who you are teasing with a piece of yarn or string.

Listen, if you can’t seem to score a hot date for this weekend, or any weekend, its not your fault. Most guys struggle with dating and so called “bad girls” can be the hardest to charm.

It’s not that there is something wrong with your game, confidence, and look. I mean there could be something wrong with one of those, but in most cases that is not the real issue.

If you are a guy who has already read and tried all sorts of how to attract women must-dos, then you may need to start delving into the psychological techniques that put her off balance and make her chase you, so long as you can justify this to yourself on an ethical level.

Following old out-dated systems for getting a date will get you nowhere with a bad girl, especially if you lack the confidence and style to naturally attract the ladies. Women want a man that stands out in a crowd and not someone that just blends in (see my post on being a “bad boy”.)

Personality is important but at this point the sad fact is that there are other guys out there who have way more attractive personalities than you do. Thats why you need to try harder and incorporate some of this high-level psychological stuff.

Of course you may still get some benefit out of combining an improved personality with a personal sense of style, that you can get from studying a style-guide. But no matter how much work you do to revamp your wardrobe and try to look sharp that still is not going to be enough by itself to get you the attention and attraction you desire.

The key is that once you get a woman’s attention with your sense of style or whatever – you need to reel them in slowly with tactics that keep her guessing. And for the love of all that is holy be sure to avoid being emotional and vulnerable to a woman you just met. This is a common mistake guys make and it causes you to come off as whiny and pathetic in a woman’s eyes.

Remember, being vulnerable to a woman only works to your benefit once you are in a relationship, and even then this is only something you want to use sparingly. If you are not looking for a relationship, don’t talk about your feelings and that kind of mushy stuff. Make sure to keep her hooked by staying mysterious, and don’t give away all your cards.